ive decided that its time for me to come clean with the family... does enybody have any advice about "coming out" as it where, cos i cant keep this sharade up forever.ive had several near misses, and its not doing me any good what with the tension and all.

It is a huge decesion. I was floored when I came out to my mom. She simply said " I wondered when you were going to tell me." We went on to discuss men and relationships. She was the greatest. My dad was passed and my sister who had gay friends was suprised but everyone was and is very supportive. We talk sex and men and all.
I hope that your coming out is as easy as mine was. If not "House Boy position available" lol

my advice is that you should come out only when you are ready to - not because someone says you should... there are many factors involved - but ultimately it's in how you will feel afterword - good or bad.... when you are ready - you will do what's right for you
and only you can make that decision